Well I think if a baby causes more frustration and stress than happiness, one shouldn't be having a baby. Despite all of the feelings that come with raising and getting to know your baby, you should definitely be happy at the end of the day, and so should your baby. If your baby becomes difficult, it is either because something is wrong, or you conditioned your baby to act that way.
It's also good to find some balance. You shouldn't spoil your baby too much by holding it 24/7 or rocking it to sleep every time it needs to go to sleep. It should have its own room and its own bed. This also leads to the soothing vs. self soothing method of getting a baby to sleep. Some people think letting your baby lie in their crib and cry during nap time or bedtime is abusive, but at the same time, you'd be teaching your baby that if they cry and throw a fit, they will get their way.
I have a lot of experience since my sister wasn't very good at caring for her kids. I basically mothered my niece. She wasn't too difficult of a baby. The hardest part was getting up in the middle of the night to feed her.
I was reading the site for Yerin, and she sounds like a genuinely happy baby. They said they kept her in the hospital for a few days after she was born because she never cried like most new borns' do when they come out and that can be a sign of something serious, but it turns out nothing was wrong, she simply wasn't crying.
Last edited by Yosei; 02-05-2012 at 10:11 PM..
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