Well, when you said that you wanted to name your mage Messara, I've always had the mental image that was a girl name, but from your words, you sound more of a guy.
Messara is a name i've been using for years and I assure you, it is not feminine in any way. If anything you are simply mispronouncing it as so many others have. But don't worry, a lot of people mistake me for a female because of my name and often how I speak in-game.
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