What would you do?

[Yosei]

Yup... so in a nutshell. If she distances herself, whether she is pulling chick-jedi mind tricks, or not, its best to keep distance so things can take their course. If the guy wants to be with that one girl and he loves her, nothing should be stopping him, but if a friend decides to distance themself over it, then he shouldn't let it get to him, it wasn't his fault, it was the friends choice.

If she has feelings for him, which from what I've heard, it seems like she does. She should just be honest. Its better to know then to spend a life time wondering what if. I've taken that plunge plenty of times, so far I've been lucky, its never turned out for the worse.

[Sinto]

You mentioned about distancing themselves.. it's been more than half a year now. Is it long enough?

[Yosei]

Hm... wow. Seems like she really took it hard. I think that is more than long enough, but then again, you never know. Maybe its time for the guy to confront her or try to talk to her? Maybe she's cooled off, and gotten over it, but she feels she's gotten to the point of no return. It would be awkward not talking to someone for so long and then just suddenly coming up to them and trying to be friends. But then again, they've always been friends. Hopefully their bond and connection hasn't changed.

[Sinto]

Yea but.. my friend is afraid to talk to her because he's afraid that Jenny might hurt him a lot. Oh, forgot to mention that he's been depressed about her during the whole time when Jenny left him, even though Molly has been trying hard to cheer him up.

[Spirit]

It sounds like Jenny had feeling for your friend. But, for whatever reason was afraid to ever mention them or let them show. It could be that Jenny was worried that your friend would not return the same feelings. However, when your friend started dating Molly, it broke her heart. Most girls do not mend a broken heart all that quickly. If her feelings were true and deep down, it may take longer than 6 months for her to get over her feelings for your friend. Also, seeing your friend again could still hurt her, because she has not mended yet, and it may be a very long time before she does. Even if she is dating someone else, she could still have feelings for your friend and it still hurt her to see him with or without Molly around.

It also could be that she never really knew the feelings existed, because she always had your friend by her side and once he started dating Molly, all these feelings for your friend overwhelmed her and she does not know how to deal with them.

All I can tell you is that,

Number one: You cannot make someone love you no matter what you do. If the feelings are not there for the other person, they are simply not there. Caring and loving are two different things that sometimes people mix up. So, if Jenny is hoping that your friend will love her and you simply do not feel that way, she needs to understand her actions will not achieve that.

Number two: You cannot make someone not feel a certain way. If seeing you still hurts Jenny, then nothing will change that. She cannot help the way she feels, it is simply the way it is. So, if your friend is hoping that Jenny will get over it, he needs to understand that might not happen.

Number three: Time does not heal all wounds. Sometimes things hurt us a little too bad and too deep for them to completely go away.

Number four: If your friend is truly happy with Molly and is in love with her, then he needs to let Jenny go. He should concentrate on his relationship with Molly and let what happens with Jenny happen. If your friend thinks he might love Jenny in that way and that is why he is so upset that she has pulled away, he needs to take some time away from both girls and get his feelings worked out. Because; otherwise, it is not fair to all three involved.

[gigeebunny]

It sounds like Jenny had feeling for your friend. But, for whatever reason was afraid to ever mention them or let them show. It could be that Jenny was worried that your friend would not return the same feelings. However, when your friend started dating Molly, it broke her heart. Most girls do not mend a broken heart all that quickly. If her feelings were true and deep down, it may take longer than 6 months for her to get over her feelings for your friend. Also, seeing your friend again could still hurt her, because she has not mended yet, and it may be a very long time before she does. Even if she is dating someone else, she could still have feelings for your friend and it still hurt her to see him with or without Molly around.

It also could be that she never really knew the feelings existed, because she always had your friend by her side and once he started dating Molly, all these feelings for your friend overwhelmed her and she does not know how to deal with them.

All I can tell you is that,

Number one: You cannot make someone love you no matter what you do. If the feelings are not there for the other person, they are simply not there. Caring and loving are two different things that sometimes people mix up. So, if Jenny is hoping that your friend will love her and you simply do not feel that way, she needs to understand her actions will not achieve that.

Number two: You cannot make someone not feel a certain way. If seeing you still hurts Jenny, then nothing will change that. She cannot help the way she feels, it is simply the way it is. So, if your friend is hoping that Jenny will get over it, he needs to understand that might not happen.

Number three: Time does not heal all wounds. Sometimes things hurt us a little too bad and too deep for them to completely go away.

Number four: If your friend is truly happy with Molly and is in love with her, then he needs to let Jenny go. He should concentrate on his relationship with Molly and let what happens with Jenny happen. If your friend thinks he might love Jenny in that way and that is why he is so upset that she has pulled away, he needs to take some time away from both girls and get his feelings worked out. Because; otherwise, it is not fair to all three involved.

This really is a tough situation... hard to say what is right and what is wrong.
As for your friend, time (as mentioned above) does not always heal all wounds and when is long enough? No one really knows that for sure but the person hurting and in so much pain.

What is more important here? We do us girls make it so darn hard sometimes? I have no clue ... but Jenny had ample opportunities I am sure to express her
true colors so to speak. When she saw it gone, she reacted. I am not going to say if it is right or wrong. On the other hand, he obviously had an awesome best friend in Jenny and maybe didn't realize it until he had her no more.

Or if be so bold, he cared more about Jenny and realized that by seeing Molly. Not that all guys do that but sometimes...yeah it happens. If Molly is as great to him as you write, he needs to take much needed time to sit down, work it out and really think things thru.

Sad it is Jenny went the way she did but maybe one day... she will come around...