So Sad D:

[Yosei]

My moms friend recently got diagnosed with cancer and it was a definite yes that there was no cure and yes he was going to die, so they put him in the hospice(sp?) program.

The nurses were neglecting him, they wouldn't give him his pain meds, and they were slow at giving him his meals, so their other friend, my moms best friend, started coming to visit him everyday to take care for him.

Well, that friend had to go out of town, so she was no longer there to care for him. He wanted my mom to start caring for him while she was gone, he was afraid how his health would be while the friend was out of town. There'd be no one there to care for him. My mom wanted to, but since she has a job and the kids, she couldn't. But she said she would come visit when she could. She also went and bought him a few comfort things. Like a blankey(a superman blankey which I thought was cute), some snacks, and just stuff to do to keep him amused.

The day their friend came back into town, he died D: My mom just left to go to his funeral.

My mom is acting all fine, and here I am crying. I didn't even know the guy. It makes me wonder how my mom is feeling. I'd have felt like it was my fault. I have not once seen her cry in my entire life. She's been through so much, and has not once shed a tear.

I guess the fact that he is no longer suffering is somewhat comforting.

[Spirit]

You mom also might be fighting back the tears or only cries in private. Sometimes, we have to hold back our feelings no matter how hard it is and deal with what has to be done. Then, when no one else is depending on us to do something or be somewhere or whatever the case may be, you lock yourself away for a few minutes and let it all out.

[Lady-Loki]

I agree with Spirit. Many times moms have to be to sensible and logical and that makes them appear to be unaffected by these things. But really, we are affected.

And, it may also be that his condition and quality of life had deteriorated to the point that dying was his release from suffering.

And, I don't think you are crying for him. I think you are crying for you mom because you know she has to feel so sad even if she isn't crying on the outside.

My grandmother passed away the first part of this month and when I messaged my friends to let them know where I would be for a couple of days I started by saying:

There will be tears and sadness because that's the nature of funerals and all that surround them. For me the tears will be because I don't respond as strong when someone I love is crying. But I can't cry for Grandmother, she is okay, she has reached her life goal.

I went on to briefly explain her physical & spiritual life and explain the more recent deterioration of her health and then closed my message by saying:

The physical end was not unexpected nor is it overwhelmingly sad and devastating. The Spiritual existence is still here and most importantly, Grandmother is well and complete in the presence of the Lord!

Death affects all people differently. Just let your mom know that you are there for her. That will mean a lot.

some ppl get scared to show how they feel and like alot
of ppl do it like reading this i think ur mom is a really stronge
person like my great grandma died like 2 weeks ago and like
its so hard not to cry and for some ppl holding it in makes
them not as sad

[Yosei]

Yeah, I always try to be a friend to my mom. Some people act embarassed to hang out with their parents.. shes the only person I hang out with here.

I know I don't like to cry in front of people. If I am, I usually quickly walk away and go hide somewhere.

[MikeyG]

I dont have the most inspirational message for you or your mother
like spirit,loki and resol had, but im here to say i feel for you and
your mother, and i hope u get past this soon.

awwwh mikey lol u well no one day witch sucks man lol w/e lol
i alway be there for anyone to talk to :P

[Belaslav]

I know for sure that if you suffer through too much, you lose the ability to cry... All you can do is just sit depressed.

So be glad you're still young and still have that way of emotional relief.

[booyah8876]

My condolenses dear =/

I can hope that all gets better...

and btw you spelled hospice right :3

<-- works in a hospital :P