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True, when you party with someone, everyone in that party should all work together. However, I think what the OP's problem with is with people outside of your party harrassing you.
I know with Lady-Loki, people are always asking for a rez or a heal or a buff. Here's the thing, Loki will rez people who need it, she is just nice that way. Loki will heal people who need it, she is just nice that way. She cannot buff yet, but when she does get there, I am pretty sure that she will be one of those that buffs random people, she is just nice like that. However, people need to have a little respect for clerics not in your party.
We were in AEW the other day and this lone person who was farming shrooms while we took down al lthe mobs, pulled a trumpy and was killed. Even though he was farming the shrooms we were trying to get to, Loki rezzed him anyways. He immediately went back to farming our shrooms. The next time he was killed, I told Loki not to rez him. Don't steal the shrooms that we are working hard to get to and then ask for a rez just to go back to stealing our shrooms. Respect that cleric enough to go somewhere else to farm shrooms.