[Yosei]

Divorce/seperation will always be stressful and hard. And she obviously isn't over it. Just because you are over her, clearly you've been for years, doesn't mean she will. She loved you, and you basically sniped her there, she probably never saw it coming. (I'm not attacking you, just giving you more of her perspective)

You had this coming from the beginning. You should never marry unless you really want to. The longer you took, the more you hurt her.

I'd suggest you talk to your kids before all of this goes into effect, to save yourself from possible hate. If they get only her side of the story, yeah, they may just hate you, but if you explain most of the marriage was for them, you wanted them to grow up with a mom and a dad, they may understand.

But still... don't let her threats get to you. Live for yourself now. Well, also for your kids. But if you are happy, and you let your kids be a part of it, they will be happy too.

Suicide is never an option. Most people who say they're going to kill themselves are the least likely to kill to. You're telling us you've thought about killing yourself, you may in the future. Apparently, you've attempted, you could have followed through. Why? You don't want to die.

I strongly suggest you find a councelor. I can't imagine why a councelor would give up on you, unless you're stubborn as an ox. But a councelor is there to help you analyze and understand things in your life. You shouldn't let one relationship ruin the others in your life. We all go through bad relationships.