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**Blaaaaaaaah** · 03-01-2009, 12:17 AM

It's good to be optimistic but I think too much optimism will require a reality check, sometimes. Not saying being pessimistic is a good thing, but we'll always need a balance between the two. If this mother was really thinking that she'll have no problem raising 14 children, 3 (I think?) with disabilities right now, then I think she needs a reality check.

I feel bad and sorry for the grandparents. Though I can't really say much since I don't know whether they DO want to look after the kids or not... it's still a lot of burden for them. To think that the grandfather has to look for work at the age of 60, a retiring age (or something, can't remember) to support a family of 14 children... heck, I think it'll be hard for even just middle-aged parents.

And this mother said she's considering to go/continue her studies as well? She's already thinking about herself when it sounds like she hasn't got her own children sorted out yet. Of course, this is all from the wiki, I don't know them, so I can't say I'm right about my judgement... but yeah...

Not to mention, looking after a child with autism takes a LOT more effort than people think. I have a cousin with autism, and it requires LOTS and LOTS of time and effort from the parents to ensure that he is properly cared for.

This woman already has a child with autism. Two more with other disabilites. I wonder how much time and effort she had put into them while she's gone for a plastic surgery and making 8 more babies? =/

And it's not just the baby-child stage. Even when they all become teens, they need to be "cared for". I'm guessing it'll probably be even harder. The age of young teens is when they could potentially be more "rebellious", and go "bad" if they don't meet the right people. And if they don't get enough care then, it'll be really hard to make sure they grow up to be "good" people.

Even if the grand parents truely want to take care of 8 new babies (and probably the 6 other children), they are not young anymore and they are human - they have limits too. I just really hope that it'll turn out okay for both the grandparents and for the kids.

03-01-2009, 12:17 AM	#74
Blaaaaaaaah WONDERCLERIC Tournaments Won: 15 In-Game Name: Bla~ahs Current Level: 7x Server: Teva Posts: 10,495	It's good to be optimistic but I think too much optimism will require a reality check, sometimes. Not saying being pessimistic is a good thing, but we'll always need a balance between the two. If this mother was really thinking that she'll have no problem raising 14 children, 3 (I think?) with disabilities right now, then I think she needs a reality check. I feel bad and sorry for the grandparents. Though I can't really say much since I don't know whether they DO want to look after the kids or not... it's still a lot of burden for them. To think that the grandfather has to look for work at the age of 60, a retiring age (or something, can't remember) to support a family of 14 children... heck, I think it'll be hard for even just middle-aged parents. And this mother said she's considering to go/continue her studies as well? She's already thinking about herself when it sounds like she hasn't got her own children sorted out yet. Of course, this is all from the wiki, I don't know them, so I can't say I'm right about my judgement... but yeah... Not to mention, looking after a child with autism takes a LOT more effort than people think. I have a cousin with autism, and it requires LOTS and LOTS of time and effort from the parents to ensure that he is properly cared for. This woman already has a child with autism. Two more with other disabilites. I wonder how much time and effort she had put into them while she's gone for a plastic surgery and making 8 more babies? =/ And it's not just the baby-child stage. Even when they all become teens, they need to be "cared for". I'm guessing it'll probably be even harder. The age of young teens is when they could potentially be more "rebellious", and go "bad" if they don't meet the right people. And if they don't get enough care then, it'll be really hard to make sure they grow up to be "good" people. Even if the grand parents truely want to take care of 8 new babies (and probably the 6 other children), they are not young anymore and they are human - they have limits too. I just really hope that it'll turn out okay for both the grandparents and for the kids. __________________ =)