[Ralath]

Adoption isn't a solution. It's an alternative that may or may not be better. There are costs associated with adoption--mental, physical, financial--just like abortion. There's no good way to compare these two things.

The question here isn't whether she should have her kids adopted or not or not have kids. There are two separate questions here:
1) Whether she should have kids or not.
2) Whether she should give her kids up for adoption or not after she's had them.

Two separate questions that you're trying to combine into one which is wrong because the topic is clearly about the first question. The second question, which you're trying to answer, assumes an answer for the first when it is actually the first we are trying to answer.

If she had never decided to move the IVF embryos into her own body, those embryos would have been killed, they would have simply never developed into babies.