[Mindspank]

In all honesty, and im going to play devils advocate again on this one, there is absolutely nothing you can do. Its human nature to grieve the loss, but if you think about it, you were spared the initial impact of the event by about six months. So those who were there for the event have grieved and can help you through the process better than if you were greiving at the same time. Suffering plus suffering equals larger suffering, but at least the others who went throgh it will better help you to deal with it.

At the risk of sounding extremely insensitive, you are unsure about what to do because part of you wants to disregard it because its been so long after the fact. So in reality, you can only do what you have been doing since the day before you found out: Live. Take the time to greive, remember your friend, and move on. In all honesty ill never forget what my wifes uncle said hours before he passed: "Dont greive for me longer than a day, because it will pain me to know that my passing has caused you pain and sorrow. Remember me and smile, and know that I am in a better place now."

I feel your friend would want you to remember him positively more than greive.