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i only stun mobs when otherpeople are killing or do demoralizing hit thingy to make their attacks weaker on the player is that considered ks or helping without asking?

Depends on the situation I guess. Technically it's not because you aren't taking their kills.

I personally don't mind of course. I've had fighters do that for my mobs even though I didn't ask them too. Sometimes I feel weird that they're helping me out because it makes me feel selfish for getting their help, but then again, I never asked for it either.

I wouldn't say it's a bad thing but there are some really weird people out there who will jump out at you if you touch their mobs, even if it's just punching with a fist, so don't always expect a positive reaction! xD