I have started looking for high END equip. simply because I do pull agro so much and die so quickly. It is annoying. I know that it is not the fighter's fault, it is simply because my damage is pulling it off the fighters. So, I am trying to give me a chance to live if I take a few hits. But, I do not TRY to tank, it just happens.
I would be more than content to be able to hit the mobs without pulling agro. In order to get anywhere with Mages, it is almost a necessity to have BoT.