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+Tequila+ 05-17-2009 09:25 AM

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Originally Posted by Vasu (Post 336663)
Okay, thanks for explaining, though I still fail to see the reason behind it. *shrug*

Every time you post, and people read it, they have paid attention to it. Can I flame you now?

Idc if you flame me. I'll jus flame back and I guarantee you'll be the one who feels like /wristing at the end of the day not me.

@Loveless thats whatever. The guy asked a question. I just answered. No need to get upset with me whatever.

Vasu 05-17-2009 09:27 AM

No, I'm just pointing out that for the reason you have given, everything is grounds for flaming.

MikeyG 05-17-2009 09:28 AM

You really want a suggestion? it doesnt have to be straight forward.. look at
the way people react to the forum rules, maybe thing you should adjust things so they work with EVERYONE, not just you guys. You, as an admin, should be taking this in, not handing out infractions, and finding out a way to solve it. Since your not doing that I do not see you fit to be in your position.

+Tequila+ 05-17-2009 09:38 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MikeyG (Post 336678)
You really want a suggestion? it doesnt have to be straight forward.. look at
the way people react to the forum rules, maybe thing you should adjust things so they work with EVERYONE, not just you guys. You, as an admin, should be taking this in, not handing out infractions, and finding out a way to solve it. Since your not doing that I do not see you fit to be in your position.

Correct deleting a post just because it doesn't exactly strike you as correct is exactly the admins job. I dont recall anyone going out and just calling her outside of her name or anything else like that. 90% of the people who saw whatever was posted thought something else..and posted a totally different thing.

MikeyG 05-17-2009 09:40 AM

You constantly tell members that if they don't like it, dont read it. Or if they don't like the way things are here.. leave. The thing is, the things here are the MODS ways of doing things. You guys think the fucking forum is about you?
You say if we dont like it leave.. well we may not like you.. but there obviously is a reason we stay on the forum. I stay for a certain few people, others stay for guildmates etc, we dont stay just to see all your fruit threads that speak in leet speak, get over yourselves.

This aint your forum, its entropys, and he is the only one that would have ANY right to tell someone to leave HIS forum. So don't make others feel like they are not welcome here just cause they dont agree with your close minded opinions on how the site should be run.

Vasu 05-17-2009 11:50 AM

Teq, based on your criteria for flaming people, you should be flaming the hell out of Mikey for posting pictures of himself. You know why you don't? Because there's nothing wrong with posting pictures of yourself. Leaving out whatever issues with mods/admins and any other group that you have, it doesn't hurt to admit that Mikey was wrong in posting that he could make several jokes about her or whatever.

lamchopz 05-17-2009 12:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Hazu
Could have sworn ive only seen it once in this thread, been following it since it started. o.o or else you guys are just faster than I can read/reload page but still :/

Blaaahs is very quick. Once I made a post which was basically off-topic. I then edited it and found that, upon submitting the change, the post was no longer there. I then had to copy the edited content and pasted it in a new post.

Is there favouritism? Look at my guild tag, look at what I described above and then ask yourself again. Rules are rules. No exception.

Just my two cents.

Blaaaaaaaah 05-17-2009 12:56 PM

Long post. Please read EVERY word of it, I urge you to.

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Deleting posts

Since you guys are unhappy that we deleted posts, here they are, I undeleted them.

I/we deleted them before not because I wanted to "avoid" the problem, but because I wanted to let Geese keep her thread open (since the idea of moving the post out to here didn't occur to me till later). I personally thought it would be sad to have to close it just because other members cannot cooperate, but I have closed it in the end. Since it's closed, and the topic is continuing here, I do not see the harm in undeleting your posts. Everyone can see them now.

Now that your posts are not deleted, and that the topic is "continuing", what else is left?

Power abuse and favouritism

Honestly, I don't think you will be satisfied with whatever reasoning until I step down from this admin position. Unfortunately, that probably isn't going to happen because I still like to help this site out for those who appreciate it. Unless, if Entropy does not agree with what I am doing and believes I am not suited, then so be it, I will be stepping down.

However, I can honestly say that I have not abused my power. I do not find the fun in giving "privileges" to friends on an online forum. I have better stuff to do in my life than to give e-privileges. But, for some reason, it appears that I am doing this and that I use my forum powers to do it.

So, how do I do it? No clue, because no one is telling me. I've only been told (by a select few) that I'm abusing my powers. I have never been told how I did it. Heck, I don't even know what kind of privileges people are talking about.

In fact, sometimes I feel like I am not even allowed to have friends here.

Did you guys know that the so called "circle of friends" also got warnings and infractions before? Did you guys know that one of them even got temp banned back when I was in a guild with them? Did you guys know that we ("unbelieveably!") treat them, in terms of forum rules, the same way we treat you?

If you answered a "no" to any of them, then please, please, please, rethink your opinions.

Forum rules

So are there many people that are unhappy with our rules? How many of them made a post here on Site Suggestions and Feedback? How many of them had spoken to us in Talk with the Mods? It sounds like many are unhappy with what we do, yet these two sections are always empty. Why?

Don't tell me we it's because we don't want to listen to you guys. We have stated SO many times, I can't emphasize it anymore, to come to these sections and POST. We cannot help it if you guys (people who are unhappy with our rules) don't post. Yes, we do not have a right to ask you to leave, but you do not have the right to whine and complain about us not doing our job if you do not make the effort to step up to make a constructive post. We may be mods and admins, but we are not mind readers.

And for the most part - most of our forum rules have actually been set due to past incidences. They are not set for us, they are set for what the most of the community wants. Granted, there will always be a select few that wouldn't be happy, simply because everyone will always formulate their own opinions and it's impossible to make everyone happy, but we do what the majority wants. If you don't agree, yet most of the community does - I'm sorry, majority wins.

If, for whatever rule, most of the community suddenly disagrees to, then we will change it. But, we have yet to see the community (by community, I mean SEVERAL different people, not the same select few) to come together and say they do not agree with a certain rule, so there has not yet been any changes. Should that happen, then a change will probably happen.


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What I am trying to get through

All we are asking for is constructive criticism. I have yet to see any constructive criticisms in here. All I have seen in this thread are complaints as well as insults and accusations thrown at me (and perhaps, the staff). Over and over again. Yes, as an admin, I have to get used to this sort of stuff. Unfortunately, I am human, so I am not going to smile and nod and say "we will try our best to suit your needs, have a nice day!". Heck, there is one post that took me 10 minutes to find, but here it is. A mighty good example of a civil/constructive criticism.

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I don't agree with some of the decisions the mods make, like I said in the other thread. For example, I felt Loveless contradicted herself in the SSOTW for Ugly Chars thread. She told Sparky not to spam, but what is the difference between these? I think all of these are spam, and they weren't treated fair.

-quotes were listed by member, as proof-

^ Note: Proof and examples were provided (not just one, but a few actual quotes). It makes it so much easier if you would find past threads/posts that relates to what you are trying to tell us.


I volunteer my spare time out to help out with modding and events on this forum. Since I volunteered to be an admin, I will certainly take the responsibilities I am supposed to take, but please, give me a break.

All the insults and all the accusations thrown at me on FiestaFan, not just now but on other occasions, I have rarely spoken up to defend myself. Why? Because I'm an admin. I am supposed to be neutral. I cannot be biased, I must see both sides of things. If I voice my opinion to defend myself, no matter how civil I keep it, I will be wrong in doing it, because that will magically make me unbiased. Doesn't make sense, I know, but that's how it works, too bad so sad for me.

I actually think I do it, though (in regards to staying neutral), most of the time. However, I am human, I am sometimes biased. And when I feel that I am starting to be biased, guess what? I stop what I am doing on the forums and immediately go to the other staff to seek for their opinions, because I know my limits and I do not always trust my own opinions. But, I have not handed out ANY warnings or infractions just because I don't agree with you or because I don't like you. If that was the case, you would have been banned long ago.

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Want an example that I think about both sides?

Take this incident about Geese's thread. You want me to see both sides, right? I did. And this is what I thought:

Geese's side: she was unhappy because someone threw hints about making cruel jokes about her or her picture. She already said she didn't like it, and that it hurts her feelings.

Mikey's/your side: it was just a joke. Besides, I haven't really said anything, except admitting and saying what kind of joke I was gonna make. It's only over the internet. It should not be taken seriously. Geese should know better than to take what other people say on the internet seriously.

Community's view: Should they think that making a joke out of someone's picture is right or not? From knowing the community, my judgement would be that majority of the community will disagree to such action. @everyone: Please correct me if I got this wrong.

Additional factors: You have been infracted for insulting members, over and over again, you should know by now.

Conclusion: Infraction. post deleted.

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Second issue - the infraction for double posting (not just for you, Mikey, but also Hazu because she did not agree with it).

Your view: man, it was just double posting. why should I get an infraction for it? It's not like you're gonna waste a lot of effort to merge two posts. I seriously don't think the deal is THAT big for me to deserve an infraction.

My view: true, it's only double post. So WHY did it I do it? Because you refuse to abide to the forum rules over and over again, NOT just because it was a double post and because "I was angry". You double posted three times in this thread. Not only this occasion, but you've done the same in other threads before. You know VERY well that we do not allow double posting here.

And for those who can't see the three posts for whatever reason:

http://img39.imageshack.us/img39/5467/doublepost01.jpg
http://img40.imageshack.us/img40/4459/doublepost02.jpg
http://img194.imageshack.us/img194/8...ublepost03.jpg

I did not go to find the other double posting he did on other threads. I cannot search edit reasons and I don't have the time to.

So no, you didn't get infracted JUST for double post, but for breaking forum rules knowingly not once, but twice . Minor thing or not.


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Those two examples were to explain the very reasons for your infraction. If, even after the details explanations, you still think I abuse my power. Then I'm sorry, nothing I can do.

However, everyone is free to comment on the two infractions I have handed. Based on my explanations, do you guys think they were justified? If not, and many people disagree with me with good/constructive reasons, then I may consider reversing them.

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I honestly should be working on my assignments rather than making a post here. But guess what? I'm making this post because I actually give a damn about this place. I am doing this for those who appreciate this place. I wanted to clear up issues. I cannot clear up issues with the community if I do not get your cooperation.

Hessah 05-17-2009 01:37 PM

Here's a quick guideline on what "Constructive Criticism" is:

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1. Understand why you are offering criticism.

2. Engage in perspective taking or role reversal.

3. Offer criticism of the person's behavior, not on her or his "person."

4. Even though criticism implies evaluation, emphasize description. Before offering any judgment, describe behavior you see or have experienced.

5. Focus your criticism on a particular situation rather than general or abstract behavior.

6. Direct your criticism to the present ("here and now") rather than the past ("there and then").

7. Emphasize in your criticism your perceptions and feelings.

8. Invite a collaborative discussion of consequences rather than offering advice.

9. Keep judgments tentative. Maintain an "open door" of dialogue rather than presenting your "analysis" or "explanation" of another's behavior.

10. Present criticism in ways that allow the other party to make decisions. Do not force criticism on the other.

11. Avoid critical overload.

12. Focus criticism on behaviors that the other person can change.

13. Include in your critical feedback a positive "outlet." Reinforce positive actions and invite the possibility of change.

14. Invite the other to present criticism of you.
Source

Key Points:

How?

Why?

Resolution?

Enraya 05-17-2009 01:48 PM

Oh just shut up mikey.

Ah DUHHHH of course Blaaaahs gave you an infraction because she was mad at you! (no sarcasm) And she has a legitimate reason to be mad! >_>

Think about it this way. Some stupid kid comes up to you every day and punches you in the stomach and runs off. First few times, you try to counsel this kid and tell him "bad kiddie, no punchy me in the stomach," but he keeps on coming back. After a while, of course you're going to punch him back! What, you're going to let him continue to damage your abs each day?

Welllllll, lolllll, it's the same with Blaaaahs! Because you refuse to learn to ask for change nicely, how else can they deal with you? Just look through all the rebel threads you've made. They've asked nicely, they've threatened you, they've handed infractions, what else? Did you seriously think they were going to stop punishing you? That's bullshit. You know, I even thought some of your ideas were good, but after reading your bitchy rants I just thought "lmao nah." I'm glad I'm not a mod. I can't even imagine the terror they must go through.

Favouritism and "little group"? Bullshit once again. I bet you I'll get infracted/post deleted for this (and if my post gets deleted, I'll resend via pm if you want to see it again and flame at me). We don't talk about you guys all the time you know. We all have a liffffeeeeeeeee. Yes, a life! Leik, omg! 8D Er, so you keep your big ego inflated by thinking that we all gossip about you behind your back and gang up against you like some big bully? Sorry to disappoint, but we each have our own minds. And this mind just happens to "side" with Blaaaahs (in idea. I doubt she'll like the swearing).

You'd be a cool guy if you knew how to be more polite. But too bad you don't.
Oh and wow. This is the first time I've sworn so much online! :3 I'm such a goody girl~

>edit
Btw, I haven't read through everything. I read about two thirds of the threads and got annoyed already. So pardon if I don't know a few things here and there. (;


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